The Rudder

It's Sunday morning and I'm channel surfing while waiting for the house to stir. I see this guy talking about relationships in a rut and renewing the spark. He's trying his best to put a humor spin on a tough subject to broach.



A rut is by definition is a well worn path that makes change very difficult to get out of. Ruts are problematic enough that many times effort is lost by not even trying. Unfortunately, that train of thought, habit of response (or lack of), or pattern of behavior, by not examining right responses, shortchanges the most important relationships.



I'm sure you've heard different versions of the joke of the three levels of sex in a marriage; The three levels are; house sex, bedroom sex, and hall sex. House sex is the first few months of marriage where you have sex all over the house, the kitchen, the living room, on the couch etc. Bedroom sex is the next few years just in the bedroom and only certain times during the week, as you settle into a routine. Hall sex when you pass in the hall -"F-you."



Sorry for the F-bomb, but you get the just of the joke. When I worked for the Navy, one of the weekly courses I broadcast Navy-wide was Divorce Care. I don't think it's "Classified" so I can share. In more than 90% of the cases on exit interviews of divorcee's, once their sex life dropped off, for any number of reasons, divorce was the next step. As you know, more than 63% of everyone you sit next to in church this morning will divorce or already has. Pretty sad comentary on the church!



Sunday mornings, Satan's minions are alive and active stirring up arguments so getting to church can be a big deal, and thoughts can be so preoccupying that you don't hear what the Spirit is saying. So this guy closes his by saying "Get out of a rut, don't just have sex, lock the door, make some passionate love before church, and Sunday night!



The Bible says God made everything and called it "good. When he told man and woman to become one, he called sex "Very good."