The Rudder

An older couple are driving down the road and get passed up by a younger couple. The young gal is sitting so close, it almost looks like they are one. The older woman comments "I remember when we used to drive like that." He says "Well, I haven't moved."

In my car dropping off my oldest at high school, and listening to "The Fish" one of the local Christian contemporary music/talk stations in Atlanta. It's OK, I can type and drive at the same time, but only because we're at a standstill in the drop off line.

So they (on the radio) are talking about the first year or two of marriage; how you come home from work, you're all lovey dovey huggy butt kissy face, hummina, hummina! Then about year three and and forward; "Honey, what's for dinner? While your up can you get me a beer?"

I'm there, we're there, well, maybe not the beer part, but the passion, the flame, the process of drifting apart. The flame flickers now and again, but generally speaking, many like us are coexisting while we do our deals, our separate lives under the same roof. I know I'm guilty, but want to do something about it. I need to treat her like the trophy wife that she is, the SMB (sexy mom babe!) She needs to be number one in this earthly life. Romans 13 :8 The only debt you should have is to love. Another passage says that if you withhold good from others when in your power to do so- to you that's sin. Another says if you know what you ought to do but don't -that's sin. God set some pretty high love commands to follow, but if done, becomes a win, win.


http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=romans%2013:8;&version=65;

I am no psychologist, but even I know for two people to thrive and survive the worldly assaults on our manhood/womanhood; love must become an action word. The same things I did to get her, to win her, need to be done now to keep her. So starting tomorrow...