How to have an Affair

I guess my pastor received death threats over the series called "Lovers". The past week was on "How to have an Affair."

The latest statistics show that nearly 73% of men and 64% of women have physically had an affair on their spouse. Mentally and emotionally close to 100% have. By following these four steps you can almost assure yourself of one. The first look is free...

Affairs happen when we:

Stop pursuing intimacy in marriage- Pursuit is an activity that cannot be allowed to become passive.

"Emerson Eggerichs wrote a book entitled “Love and Respect – The Love She Most
Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs.” In a recent interview, Emerson said that
he took a poll of 1,000 men and the majority said that they would rather have an affair
than to sleep with a wife who was acting out of her duty (or obligation) to him. His
comment points to the fact that we desire intimacy as human beings and not just sex.
How are you meeting the intimacy needs of your partner? Intimacy and affair proofing
a marriage is not ONLY about the physical act of sex; it is about feeling close to, cherished
by, and intimate with another person. Clearly, that is what’s taking place in Song of
Songs 5 -A husband and wife are using their words and physical touch to express
their love and respect for each other; thus, cultivating intimacy in the marriage."

Establish our standards of beauty elsewhere- Bravo, Cougar town, and the fashion bible-Cosmo, can totally lead to a desensitised state of mind. Beth and Blake go on to say "The images and messages that can lead to sexual sin are everywhere. While standing in line at Kroger, simply look at the magazines! They seem to offer you better sex, more friends, more money, happier vacations, great food, and hot romances. If I stand there long enough, I start to think about how much my life is missing (honestly). Recent shows like, Sex in the City, Desperate Housewives, The Bachelor, and Cougar Town (to name a few) are based on the theme of people looking for intimacy and finding it in unhealthy and unscriptural ways."

Build close relationships with the opposite sex- Usually starts innocent enough, but gradually evolves from casual lunches to cocktails to...

Keep God out of our marriages- The classic triangle with God at the pinnicle, and as each grow closer to God, each grows closer together as well. Without the Lord as the concrete those two lines of the triangle go there own way...My wedding band has Eccl 5:12-The three branded cord cannot be easily broken- http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=eccl%204:12&version=NLT plug in these other verses as well- Song of Songs 5:10–16, 1 Corinthians 7:5, 1 Corinthians 6:18–20.